Turn up between 7 and 7.30 and one of our hosts will welcome you - we're a friendly bunch but we know it can be intimidating to come to a discussion group where some people have been coming for years.
Look for the sign on the door or our mascot Thursday the owl (right) who always comes with us!
If you'd rather meet one of us face-to-face first, just get in touch. The hosts' details are on the Meetup site.
The meetups are relaxed and informal and take place in a pub environment. No one is ever expected to speak, and we try to give everyone the chance to speak if they would like to. Attendance is usually between 10 and 25 people and we have had new people attending every time.
The discussion is about all aspects of non-monogamy, and tries to be as inclusive as possible. If you'd like to suggest a topic, you can do so on the Meetup page for the event or in the social network beforehand, or use The Box (see below).
You don't have to be in a poly or non-monogamous relationship to attend; just respectful towards people who are!
We have the room booked exclusively from 7pm so we can hear each other!
We typically have a round-the-table discussion between around 7.30 and 9, with social time before and after that, but it often depends on how much people want to talk about!
The Box comes with us to every meetup. It's a place you can write thoughts or questions anonymously, or if you don't want to speak out loud. These could be contributions to the current discussion, or suggestions for the next month's discussion.
One of the organisers will read out everything in the box at each meetup, so it's a good way to be heard if you don't want to speak up during the discussion.
We're an informal discussion and we don't like to have many rules, but since this is a sensitive subject for discussion we have to have a few.
Short answer: No.
Hiring the room costs us a small amount. if you'd like to contribute to this, the O.P.E.N library or the Meetup/website running costs, small donations are welcome!
As well as the monthly discussion, we hold regular social events. Newcomers and old-timers are both welcome at these — just look for Thursday the owl to find us!
Keep an eye on Meetup for details.